One Saturday afternoon I sat in a workshop held by one of our former nonsexaholic trustees and his wife. The topic was "The Family Afterward" from the AA Big Book chapter of the same name. One thing I remember is the statement "time takes time." When it comes to healing and making amends in a relationship I have found this to be a useful slogan. I heard a physician who is an SA member say that "time itself can be a healing agent." That too has been my experience.