Fear

What lust did for me

I once heard an AA speaker say, “Alcohol could never have done so much TO me if it didn’t do so much FOR me.”  A light went on when I heard that, because it’s certainly true for me and my lust. ...

Fear Squad

Along the sidelines of my mind, for most of my life, there have been a bevy of pom-pom waving fearleaders.  They're very non-triggering fearleaders, draped in black and drab.  They lead jeers and cheerless cheers...

Practicing self care

This week has been challenging for me, and was made worse by some drama last night. I allowed this to affect my mood and even allowed it to keep me up last night with worry and anxiety.

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Wanting intimacy not sex

As a man, I had no idea that what I wanted was intimacy rather than sex. I thought sex was the royal road to intimacy but it turned out to be the road to disappointment. But in recovery, attending many meetings...

Giving up fear and pride

My dishonesty, both within my SA programme and in other areas of my life, is often rooted in fear and pride. It took a number of years in SA to discover this, but a homegroup member's share helped me to see it. I...

Sources of anxiety

I am 87 days sexually sober today.  Early into this stretch of sobriety, I decided to cut back on how much coffee I drank.  I was only drinking one cup a day, but it was strong.  I had been having major problems...

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