One of my sponsees shared a humorous incident (he has shared this with others, so this is not sharing out of turn).
Shortly after starting recovery, his wife decided that he needed to accelerate his recovery. (A wee bit of codependence there…) I had him working on Step Four, but she wanted him to make a Step Nine amends to her best friend. So he wrote out a letter for him to give to that friend. Then, after working on it a bit, he gave it back to his wife to check over. She read the letter, shook her head in disgust, crumpled it up and threw it away. “Your sponsor is right,” she said. “You’re not ready to do this yet."