My secret to sexual sobriety? I hit bottom when I wanted to commit suicide, and I never wanted to feel that low ever again. The fear of going back to my old feelings of despair was greater than my fear of working the Steps. So I got my first Sexaholics Anonymous sponsor, but he wasn't really working the Steps. Then I got a second sponsor, but he relapsed and never returned. Then I got my third sponsor. I have never met him in person, but we worked the Steps in three weeks, and I had a spiritual awakening. Still, I didn't carry the message and I slipped twice more--until I was finally willing to go to any lengths to stay sober. Today I know that I can’t stop at sobriety, because recovery is so much better. So today I work the Steps daily, I attend an SA meeting every day, I sponsor others and make calls, and I seek to live a positive sobriety every day.