At times it seems that every moment I am provoked by resentment toward my stepdaughter, or disconnection from her, and I'm not able to manage this by myself. My SA sponsor suggested that I share--during these holidays--with another married fellow who also has stepdaughter experience. Fortunately I did this, and after three days I realized that I have two really different stepdaughters, one of whom is sweet and solid, and other one who is the opposite--more reserved, inactive, but crazy. Thanks to God, we have differences.   And like another member says: I'm their stepfather, I have to be in charge of them sometimes, but I can't play God with them, they aren't going to do what I want them to do. And I most of time things work out quite well!