How Can I Tell If I’m Addicted?

You have to come to the realization for yourself.

Recognizing our own powerlessness is what we call “working the First Step.” As the First Step states, “We admitted we were powerless over lust—that our lives had become unmanageable.” 

It takes time and often a lot of pain to admit we are defeated. Sooner or later, we say something like, “I give up!” or “I need help!” or “I can’t do this by myself any more!” Each of these statements is an admission of powerlessness.

That is why it does not work when we try to get sober for somebody else, like a family member or employer. We have to admit defeat to ourselves and we have to seek help for ourselves.