Select stories from recovering sex addicts

Welcome to the Members Share section of our website.

Here members of Sexaholics Anonymous share their experience, strength and hope. There are stories for everyone, from all walks of life. We hope that you can find inspiration from these shares.

Please always remember that the Member Shares are not official literature of Sexaholics Anonymous, they remain the personal opinions of their respective authors.

Helping Other Sexaholics

My character defect:  I want to be treated special in order to feel normal.  Rooted within this idea is that I want to be catered to; I want to be served. But that is just me playing God.  And when life doesn't work that way, I get angry and resentful--thinking...

I am a Sexaholic

Another member shared, "I'm not sure what's wrong with me."  I remember asking an old timer this a few years ago.  I figured that I would hear a vault open up, which only old timers have a key to, and who only share their best experience, strength, and hope when...

I Cannot Fight Lust

I heard a member of Sexaholics Anonymous say, "Fight the good fight," and this reminded me of my own early experience and how wrong my thinking was.  My sponsor told me to not fight lust, because I'm powerless to fight lust. He said that God is not some big dog...

Grateful to Be a Sexaholic

I heard someone say "If you don't change, your sobriety date will."  Sexaholics Anonymous can be a VERY frustrating program for members who want to hold onto control in their lives, and for those who do not give this program 100%.  The AA Big Book says that we...

Acting Out Is The Last Thing I Do

When I was an active sex addict, all the stuff I did before acting out was based on selfishness, self-centeredness, restlessness, irritability, and discontent (because of the selfishness and self-centeredness). In short, I was angry, resentful, and full of fear...

How I surrender to recovery today

By "hitting my knees" each and every morning, without exception, and admitting to God that I am completely powerless over lust, my character defects, my whole self, and that I need Him in my day

By "hitting my knees" last thing each and every night, without exception, as I need Him

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Surrendering Lust to God

Recently, I was thinking about my experiences with trying to be in control of my lust and my sexaholism. I'm one of those people that the SA literature describes:  "He or she has lost control, no longer has the power of choice, and is not free to stop. Lust has...

Let Go and Let God

It's a good thing that the Twelve Step program does not require perfection for it to work, otherwise I would not be sober today.  A lot has changed for me in the last six years, and I'm thankful to God for continuing to grant me the gift of sobriety,...

Think, Think, Think

Whenever I’ve read the AA slogan “think, think, think,” I have interpreted it in the sense that-- by staying sober and working the Steps--I can gradually and consciously think clearly again, as the Big Book says on pages 84 and the following pages:

"For by this time...

My Vision Versus God’s Vision

My vision: Don't even get me started. But God’s vision: I don't know....

I am a sexaholic who has been given sobriety from sex addiction, and I know that I can't keep it unless I give it away. So for starters, my vision must be to help sexaholics....

Accepting That I Am a Sexaholic

I didn't arrive at SA via "enlightened self interest. " For me it was more of the "pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization variety.” I was "beaten into a state of reasonableness" by 40 years of active sexaholism.

One thing I did do when I got to SA was follow directions.  I wrote out...

Powerless over Sex Addiction

One of our newer members this past week echoed a frequent concern from newcomers:  How can we possibly gain any victory over our disease if we start by admitting we’re powerless?  
Yet that was how I came to SA.  I had exhausted every avenue that I could think of.  I was at immediate risk...

Attraction or Promotion?

For me, promoting would be saying that we are better than other S programs, therapy, or religion, and basically pushing something on a person who doesn’t want it. Whereas attraction works by making ourselves known for who we are, stating the facts, sharing our...

From Sex Addict to Good Dad

Hello.  I'm a recovering sex addict, sober since July 2015, checking in this morning with a lot of gratitude and a heart of joy. My Higher Power is working amazing things in my life. How do I know that recovery and sobriety are worth all the effort?  How do I...

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