Select stories from recovering sex addicts

Welcome to the Members Share section of our website.

Here members of Sexaholics Anonymous share their experience, strength and hope. There are stories for everyone, from all walks of life. We hope that you can find inspiration from these shares.

Please always remember that the Member Shares are not official literature of Sexaholics Anonymous, they remain the personal opinions of their respective authors.

Living the Solution

Wanting to "Live the Solution” of Sexaholics Anonymous

Am I living the solution? Sometimes I wonder whether I am honestly looking for a recovery solution--or is it just that I’m bothered that I'm not getting my way?  I came from a very rigid religious background.  Every time the church...

Television First Porn Next

Don’t get me started on Television! 

Television is something I simply cannot watch. I discovered this very early in lust recovery in Sexaholics Anonymous. Even if my motives were good--and even if the shows I wanted to watch were of good quality--there were just too many sick images (...

Why I chose Sexaholics Anonymous

Sexaholics Anonymous Has Given Me A Second Chance at Life

My journey to Sexaholics Anonymous began eight years ago, in a 12 Step fellowship for food addiction. I thought that I only had one problem: I could not lose weight. I thought that if I could only lose weight, everything would be...

Love Based Sexual Sobriety

White Knuckle Beginnings

For me sexual sobriety must be love based. Since I began my Sexaholics Anonymous recovery in April 2012, my sobriety has gone through a transformation from fear based to love based. At the very beginning, I was white knuckling; that is, my sobriety was based on...

Overcoming Selfishness

"Selfishness--self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.  Alcoholics Anonymous Chapter 5

Selfishness remains...

Mixed Meetings

The White Book Says..

In our book Sexaholics Anonymous (also known as The White Book), there is an entire section on Mixed Meetings, which discusses who should be allowed into our meetings. This section is appropriately titled "Mixed Meetings" [see The White Book...

Explicit Sharing

Explicit sharing is something I seldom do in Sexaholics Anonymous; in fact I don't always share lust with others at all. Most often, I first surrender my lust to God and then, if I don’t feel free from lust, I'll make a call to a program friend. However, I am often able to let go of the explicit...

Overcoming Lust Addiction

He died a sober lust addiction sufferer

A very well-known, long-time sufferer from lust addiction and old timer in Sexaholics Anonymous was very sick. He was huffing oxygen to stay alive. He called his sponsor to tell him how sick he felt. His sponsor suggested that he reach out to a...

Staying Sexually Sober

I’m wallowing in self pity, but I’m staying sexually sober by the grace of God one moment at a time.

Lately, my wife has been disconnecting herself from me but I am staying sexually sober.  During the past couple of weeks, it's gotten to the point where my wife is telling me that she's...

Willing to Overcome Sex Addiction

How I Became Willing to Go to Any Lengths to Overcome My Lust and Sex Addiction

On pages 206-207 in the “White Book” of Sexaholics Anonymous, there is a lengthy quote from the Alcoholics Anonymous “Big Book,”  titled "From Chapter Five Of Alcoholics Anonymous." Those pages end with a...

Fellow Sexaholics Give Me Hope

When a sober Sexaholics Anonymous member shares the good, the bad, and the ugly--in other words when he becomes gut honest--I sharpen my ears, and my thirsty soul drinks what it was always looking for: the human connection. I don’t need to feel subhuman or superhuman, but just one amidst the...

No More Juggling My Problems

In early recovery, I tried to be successful academically, to stay clean and sober (or at least not let others know that I wasn't clean and sober), to keep my family and friends satisfied, to....and so on.

I felt like a juggler who was juggling too many problems!  Actually I was just...

Thank God for Keeping me Sexually Sober Through Sexaholics Anonymous

Last week I had a couple of really bad days in my marriage, and I was amazed by how strongly the flashbacks and crazy obsessions came back! I felt I was in real danger of sexually acting-out.  I have heard from old timers that:

"When you think lust is gone and everything is quiet, lust is...

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