Select stories from recovering sex addicts

Welcome to the Members Share section of our website.

Here members of Sexaholics Anonymous share their experience, strength and hope. There are stories for everyone, from all walks of life. We hope that you can find inspiration from these shares.

Please always remember that the Member Shares are not official literature of Sexaholics Anonymous, they remain the personal opinions of their respective authors.

Why why doesn't work

An alcoholic with 30+ years of recovery gently and laughingly informed me, that "why questions" don't help. This is because all why questions are management questions and, in recovery, I am no longer "in...

Letting go of old ideas

This amazing programme of recovery (really a kind of "life university"!) seems to work by osmosis rather than through the head. I stopped asking questions long ago, and just got on with doing whatever the old-...

Fellowship in Glendalough

Following the All Hallows SA & S-Anon Conventions, Dublin, 18th- 20th July 2014, about twenty of us booked into the Youth Hostel in Glendalough for two nights. SA and S-Sanon were both represented....

Despairing of my own power

So much of what has happened is recent years has kept knocking the pillars of my so-called "knowledge" out from under me. I increasingly find myself certain of increasingly fewer things. But those fewer and fewer...

Disturbing defects

I know there are ups and downs in normal life. My lusting and acting out behaviours were my faulty attempt to heighten the ups and avoid the downs. Lust doesn't work for me anymore, because I always surrender it ...

Carving out time to pray

The last couple of days, I've become aware that I've let my programme degrade. While I've been going through major life changes, I've focused on keeping up those parts which involve others, like sponsorship and...

Practicing self care

This week has been challenging for me, and was made worse by some drama last night. I allowed this to affect my mood and even allowed it to keep me up last night with worry and anxiety.

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Settling old debts

1. I recently went on a four day bus trip to several concentration camps near Hamburg, Germany, with residents from my native village. My village had less than 1000 inhabitants in 1944 when, in two SS raids, 95...

Lust won't go easy on me

I'm loving all the shares on practical tips for surrendering lust temptations. I'm told sexaholism is three-fold: physical, emotional, and spiritual. Ideally my surrender would involve all three. A large part of...

One trigger after another

Tonight I'm in a city for a certain conference that is well known for lust. This is a tough trip for me so far. I feel most challenged in my hotel room. It's hard - just one trigger after another. And it's all me...

Happy destiny

I was imagining a conversation I must have had with God before I was born, in which we squared off on this issue of me being a sexaholic.  I'm thinking I just forgot it.  I imagine it went something like this....

Time for me to fly

This morning, as I was driving to work, still feeling tired after an emotional weekend, I started being assaulted by images.  Images I didn't want and was working hard to surrender, but was struggling and unable...

The Birds

I live by the sea, where there are many gulls.  Seagulls normally mind their own business but once, when I was walking along eating a cake, a seagull noticed me and swooped.  It hovering just above my head, close...

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