Select stories from recovering sex addicts

Welcome to the Members Share section of our website.

Here members of Sexaholics Anonymous share their experience, strength and hope. There are stories for everyone, from all walks of life. We hope that you can find inspiration from these shares.

Please always remember that the Member Shares are not official literature of Sexaholics Anonymous, they remain the personal opinions of their respective authors.

Step 3 Has Helped Me To Be of Help

Sexaholics Anonymous Step Three Has Me Helped Learn How To Be Of Help to Others

At first, Step Three for me (“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him”) was just the  surrender that I heard talked about in Sexaholics Anonymous meetings...

God Loves Me

The Fellowship of Sexaholics Anonymous Has Taught Me That God Loves Me 

Playing God has been a problem for me, so for me, working Sexaholics Anonymous Step Three (“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand Him”) has been an exercise in...

At Peace With Myself in Sobriety

Because of Sexaholics Anonymous, I Have Sexually Sobriety and Peace With Myself

If the focus of my Sexaholics Anonymous recovery is based on just *not* acting out,rather than sobriety, then I will fail.  That’s because then I’m only working recovery on one half of the SA problem, and...

A New Life

The SA Program of Recovery is a New Way of Life

I recently returned home from two months of traveling and living my life in another country. One of the hardest parts of those two months of travel was the disruption to my "standard practice" of actions related to my Sexaholics Anonymous...

A Rich Life

Sexaholics Anonymous Has Given Me a Richness of Life

I'm thankful for the reminder that horrendous life consequences can accompany my sexaholism. I like to tell my friends in Sexaholics Anonymous that we are "front page" kinds of people. There seems...

Fighting Lust

When I Surrender My Sexual Lust to God, I Can Be Free of It

I’ve learned from my fellow Sexaholics Anonymous members that fighting lust does not work. I can only stay sexually sober when I realize that I am powerlessness over lust. Then, when I realise that I’m powerless, I can...

Sober At Church

A Poor Church Mouse Becomes Rich

When I was active in my sex addiction, I was excommunicated from the church that I belonged to. But after six years in Sexaholics Anonymous recovery, I was finally able to let go of my resentments and misunderstandings, and then I was blessed with the...

Hope Restored

I Have Found a Solution for Overcoming My Sexual Acting Out

As described in the Alcoholics Anonymous “Big Book” (page 43, third edition), I am one of the 100% hopeless type of addicts.  I expected to die as an active sex addict. I had stopped trying to stop. I was emotionally miserable...

Emotions Are Signals

Sexaholics Anonymous Helps Me Stay Sexually Sober

I am grateful for the reminder in Sexaholics Anonymous that my emotions are attached to my addiction.  I still struggle sometimes with feeling sad or lonely or ashamed or angry--or just about any other emotion that people experience.  ...

Resentments Kill

My Resentments Were All Within Me

Dealing appropriately with resentments through Sexaholics Anonymous has been one of the most life-transforming benefits of recovery for me. I came to SA because I had destroyed my marriage, destroyed my career, and was putting my life at risk.  I did...

Spiritual Condition

I need to maintain a fit spiritual condition

At times I fail to recall the effort it takes for me to surrender my sexual Iust on a daily basis.  I pretend to think that because I have such a wonderful spiritual condition--attending Sexaholics Anonymous meetings, meeting with other SA...

Hope For Freedom

I Have Found Freedom from the Compulsions of Sex Addiction

At our local face-to-face Sexaholics Anonymous meeting, we read aloud sections from approved SA literature and Alcoholics Anonymous literature for three of our four monthly meetings. In my estimation, reading together from the...

I Surrender

If I have fully accepted my Sexaholics Anonymous Step One--that I am powerlessness over my sexual acting out and my life has become unmanageable--then I have admitted that I am not God. If I am powerless over lust, and if I want to have any hope for freedom, then I must have a Power greater than...

Not God

I desperately wanted to play God

It took me a seriously long time to finally get so demoralized that I "gave up, let go, and let God.” Before finding the Sexaholics Anonymous program, I desperately wanted to play God. I was living in the delusion that I needed to be in control, and that...

Restart

Sometimes I just have to restart my day

Yesterday I was babysitting my nephew and we were playing a video game. He made a mistake, and then he clicked the "restart" button. He said "sometimes you just have to restart."  This made me smile to myself, because it reminded me of something I...

Surrender To God

Surrender is about redirecting my deepest desires to God

For me, surrender is not so much about stopping my insane sexual behaviors (although that was absolutely necessary for me to recover from lust). Surrender is about redirecting my deepest desires to God. I'm not addicted to lust...

Attitude

Sexaholics Anonymous Gave Me a New Attitude and a New Heart

Attitude is one of those words that I thought I understood when I first arrived at Sexaholics Anonymous, but really I did not understand it at all.  A new heart was one of those things that I thought I did not need when I...

Addicted To Lust

Addicted but not Hopeless

I appreciate the reminders that I’ve heard recently from my Sexaholics Anonymous fellows of what it was that I was addicted to in the past: I was addicted to lust. Lust was my drug of choice.  In the past I would use lust as the solution to all of my many...

Sexaholics Anonymous Lust Free

Sexaholics Anonymous Has Set me Free From the Bondage of Sexual Lust

Recently in a Sexaholics Anonymous meeting that I attended while traveling last week, we read the Sexaholics Anonymous (“White Book”) chapter titled "Steps Six and Seven” (pages 115-121). I thought that was a great...

Stopping Masturbation

Masturbation Desperation

I came to Sexholics Anonymous in desperation, certain that the path I was on would lead to an accidental, sordid death within a few months.  I had to stop the dangerous things I was doing. I had to. But at my first SA meeting, they told me I had to stop...

Porn Free

Celebrating One Year Porn Free Through Sexahlics Anonymous

I am grateful today for Sexaholics Anonymous, and for my one year porn free. That is a miracle! I attended my first SA meeting in June 2011, but this is the first time I have celebrated one year. God willing I will stay sober...

Freedom from Lust

Freedom From the Bondage of Lust and Sex Addiction

Lately I have heard many Sexaholics Anonymous members share with newer members on how they got through early withdrawal from lust--and my own  experience is similar to what has been shared. Actions that helped me in my early sexual...

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