I have a growing acceptance that I will never succeed in keeping all aspects of my life in control. There are just too many other people and too many circumstances that keep thwarting my efforts to maintain control. And what an exhausting effort it is when I try to be in control. I just can't do it!
Better for me is when I consistently reject the belief that I can be in control, or that life would be better for me if I were in control. Instead, acceptance of reality, whether the reality is of who I am and my powerlessness or whether it is acceptance of the innumerable ways that life's circumstances are not in my control, is both a more realistic and much more peaceful way to live.
I'm learning to accept that God will simply take care of this all, if I surrender my will and life to Him. When I do that, He keeps proving He can be trusted.