In the Sexaholics Anonymous “White Book” on page five we read the AA Third Tradition: "The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking." The meaning for in Sexaholics is explained on page Four:
"This will and should discourage many inquirers who admit to sexual obsession or compulsion but who simply want to control and enjoy it, much as the alcoholic would like to control and enjoy drinking. Until we had been driven to the point of despair, until we really wanted to stop but could not, we did not give ourselves to this program of recovery. SA is for those who know they have no other option but to stop, and their own enlightened self-interest must tell them this."
Whenever thoughts come that I might want to want to control and enjoy my drinking, I must recognize them as the door to insanity. I must run from them like an animal runs from a forest fire.