I don't know how to not look. I am powerless over the look. My life is unmanageable. I cannot manage looking and I can not manage not looking. What I need is a new attitude about looking and taking and lusting.
For me today the question is, what is in that look? What is inside me that needs to take something from another? The power of the look is not in the other person - the power of the look is inside me.
The AA Big Book tells me in the section about Step 10 (p. 84-85) that my new attitude towards (lust) comes through no thought or effort on my part. What that means to me today is that I need to put my thought and effort into something other than lusting or not lusting.
If I focus on the maintenance and growth of my spiritual condition (SA White Book p. 45-46) I get "unthirsty". I experience a sense of neutrality. I don't have to fight off the look. In fact I don't have to fight my eyes at all. When I get real eyes to see the wonders of this world, I don't see lust at all.
I've been praying and meditating on the word freedom lately. Last night I was given this quote: "The only real freedom a human being can ever know is doing what you ought to do because you want to do it" (AABB p. 552). Our White Book tells us "we can look the world in the eye and stand free". I'm all for that.