For the newcomers: as you try to get sober from sexaholism, eventually the fantasies and memories will leave you. This will take awhile, so in the meantime it is important to work the Twelve Steps of recovery with a sponsor, so as to experience some recovery from lust. It is also helpful to make four or five calls a day to other sexaholics. I also find daily sobriety renewals to be helpful for recovery. Attending church services or prayer meetings can be quite helpful. Or do volunteer work, such as opening a new SA meeting in your hometown--even the town where you were born! That’s a great way to bust your sexaholic ego.
Lust is cunning, baffling, and powerful and very, very patient-- so we need to be diligent.