I often hear people in the programme mention that they love their spouse. I had said that too - and I really believed it.
But the White Book tells me that lust kills love. I didn't truly love my spouse or anyone, including God. I just used the words, as if I was reciting it from the dictionary definition. But if I truly loved, then I wouldn't be acting out with lust.
That was difficult for me to accept but true.
Thanks to this programme (working the 12 Steps with a sponsor), today I take the actions of love.