When I was an active sexaholic, I was irresponsible and unreliable, and I did a lot of stupid, insane things. No matter how hard I tried, I could not stop. It didn't matter if I kept myself extra busy with work or other activities; the addiction always "snuck" back in.
The only way I've found to get sober is by attending a lot of face-to-face SA meetings (I'm at about 2000 right now), asking someone to be my sponsor, and then doing what he told me to do, which involved working the Steps. I continue to do these things because, over the years, I've earned back the respect of my wife, my family, and myself. I'd like to keep that respect, so I continue to do what has worked.
I also know that I am by no means special. I've seen a lot of other newcomers walk into the rooms of SA, go to a lot of meetings, get a sponsor, and work the Steps. They get the same results I've experienced.