Batch 31 #301
"The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. (SA 7)
For years, I read this tradition as two requirements: 1. stop lusting and 2. become sexually sober. The only requirement is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. To stop lusting is the only way of gaining sexual sobriety.
It is right that the tradition is written this way. Lust and sexual sobriety are mutually exclusive. I will not become or remain sober as long as I lust. The White Book identifies the problem, as lust not sex. Lust is the perversion of a natural instinct for an un-natural end. Which leads to the question: what is a natural end?
The natural end is love, or as the White Book says, true connections. It is the genuine expression of love which comes from a place of feeling and not gratification. In this sense, then, the only requirement of membership is to have and express love and I cannot do this if I lust.
Sobriety and lust are mutually exclusive. Sobriety and love are co-existent.
God, help me to love myself enough to stop lusting, remain sober, and experience recovery.