Staying Connected to My Sexaholics Anonymous Fellows is Wisdom
I have often heard members in Sexaholics Anonymous meetings share that our Higher Power can do for us things that we cannot do for ourselves. This is wisdom, and it is important for me to hear, because it is impossible for me to control or predict outcomes as I wish I could do. It is common for me to stay stuck in the problem instead of moving to the solution. I can go on and on talking and thinking about my problems, and I get nowhere. So praying, studying, going to meetings, and listening to other SA members are important, because maybe then I will hear some new ideas.
Sometimes I don't even realize how much I am stuck in a rut. Last night at a meeting, we had a group visiting from a nearby town. Their joy in the SA program and fellowship was delightful. Maybe it would be good for me to get out of my comfort zone and visit other groups.
This morning I was reflecting on my tendency to worry excessively about things. That tendency seems to run in my family. Sometimes I talk about it with my brothers and sisters. We all grew up together, so they understand. The writer Mark Twain once said, "I have known a great many troubles in my life, but most of them never happened." That is how I am. I worry about possibilities and get angry or upset in advance. But often what happens is different from what I had imagined.
Praying for Wisdom
I need to learn to face situations honestly and not run from them. The Serenity Prayer gives me a model for looking at things in a sane and productive way:.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
I need to stay connected to my Sexaholics Anonymous fellows, pray for wisdom and guidance, do what I can, and leave the rest in the care of my Higher Power.