I wept nearly every day for a year in my early Sexaholics Anonymous recovery.  I had a lot of sadness in my heart, which lust had kept hidden from me all my life.  I had to overcome my old thinking that "men don't cry," because crying is God's way of relieving the pain of loss, and I had suffered many losses in my sexaholic life.  I lost my innocence, my youth, my honour, my reputation, my marriage, my family, my career, my friends, my house, my business, my hard-earned fortune, and my happiness.  But I never relieved the pain of any of those things by crying, until I got into SA.  Then there was buckets-full of catching up to do.  After awhile the flood subsided.  Turning to God and others in unselfish constructive action is the Sexaholics Anonymous solution.  Nowadays, I seldom cry--not because I can't cry, but because I have received so much more than I have lost in the last 21 years of sobriety.