My previous Sexaholics Anonymous sponsor would say to me: "Don't worry about your wife and don't criticize her; she has managed her life much better than you have managed yours! She has a family and she has taken care of her daughters, while you have been destroying your life." And that is the truth; she has more abilities than I do.  She is much more functional than I am.  Today I want to surrender my sensitive ego, and I commit to my fellows in SA that I will be considerate of my wife.