Select stories from recovering sex addicts

Welcome to the Members Share section of our website.

Here members of Sexaholics Anonymous share their experience, strength and hope. There are stories for everyone, from all walks of life. We hope that you can find inspiration from these shares.

Please always remember that the Member Shares are not official literature of Sexaholics Anonymous, they remain the personal opinions of their respective authors.

How I surrender to recovery today

By "hitting my knees" each and every morning, without exception, and admitting to God that I am completely powerless over lust, my character defects, my whole self, and that I need Him in my day

By "hitting my knees" last thing each and every night, without exception, as I need Him

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Surrendering Lust to God

Recently, I was thinking about my experiences with trying to be in control of my lust and my sexaholism. I'm one of those people that the SA literature describes:  "He or she has lost control, no longer has the power of choice, and is not free to stop. Lust has...

Let Go and Let God

It's a good thing that the Twelve Step program does not require perfection for it to work, otherwise I would not be sober today.  A lot has changed for me in the last six years, and I'm thankful to God for continuing to grant me the gift of sobriety,...

Think, Think, Think

Whenever I’ve read the AA slogan “think, think, think,” I have interpreted it in the sense that-- by staying sober and working the Steps--I can gradually and consciously think clearly again, as the Big Book says on pages 84 and the following pages:

"For by this time...

My Vision Versus God’s Vision

My vision: Don't even get me started. But God’s vision: I don't know....

I am a sexaholic who has been given sobriety from sex addiction, and I know that I can't keep it unless I give it away. So for starters, my vision must be to help sexaholics....

Accepting That I Am a Sexaholic

I didn't arrive at SA via "enlightened self interest. " For me it was more of the "pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization variety.” I was "beaten into a state of reasonableness" by 40 years of active sexaholism.

One thing I did do when I got to SA was follow directions.  I wrote out...

Powerless over Sex Addiction

One of our newer members this past week echoed a frequent concern from newcomers:  How can we possibly gain any victory over our disease if we start by admitting we’re powerless?  
Yet that was how I came to SA.  I had exhausted every avenue that I could think of.  I was at immediate risk...

Attraction or Promotion?

For me, promoting would be saying that we are better than other S programs, therapy, or religion, and basically pushing something on a person who doesn’t want it. Whereas attraction works by making ourselves known for who we are, stating the facts, sharing our...

From Sex Addict to Good Dad

Hello.  I'm a recovering sex addict, sober since July 2015, checking in this morning with a lot of gratitude and a heart of joy. My Higher Power is working amazing things in my life. How do I know that recovery and sobriety are worth all the effort?  How do I...

Earning Respect

When I was an active sexaholic,  I was irresponsible and unreliable, and I did a lot of stupid,  insane things.   No matter how hard I tried, I could not stop. It didn't matter if I kept myself extra busy with work or other activities; the addiction always "...

Connecting With God

Why did I spend so many years avoiding God! Insanity! Clearly I am an addict and I do crazy things when I'm using the lust drug. Thank God that I no longer have to use that drug and I can live free of that bondage.

But I really did avoid God for...

Contented Sex Addict

I'm a sex addict, sober since July 1, 2015. It's been an interesting day. And thanks to my Higher Power, my sponsor, and my sobriety, I survived it quite well.

I won't go into details, but we had a "family meeting" with my daughter's therapist that did...

Pigs Can Fly

As an early recruit to the FPSA (Flying Piggies School of Aviation), also known as the Flying Piggies SA Whatsapp Group, I have keenly observed its development. At first, we were all aloft on Higher-Powered wings and crash landings were virtually unheard of. But later we witnessed some...

No Half Measures

The Steps work when I work them. "My life is too unmanageable" is not an excuse for struggling, because SA teaches us how to handle unmanageability.  Our program is for all kinds of people who are powerless over lust, and whose lives are unmanageable.

In the the beginning of Big Book...

Step Nine Out of Order

One of my sponsees shared a humorous incident (he has shared this with others, so this is not sharing out of turn).

Shortly after starting recovery, his wife decided that he needed to accelerate his recovery.  (A wee bit of codependence there…)  I...

Women in Mixed Meetings

I’m a sexaholic, sober since 05/26/14, currently working Steps one through Three, and trying to let go of the fact that I will never do Step Four perfectly.

Early in my recovery, I was apprehensive regarding what I...

I Cannot Fight Lust

I heard another member say "fight the good fight," and this reminded me of my own experience and how wrong my thinking was.  My sponsor said to me that I cannot fight lust because I'm powerless to fight lust. He also said that God is not some big dog I get on...

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