Select stories from recovering sex addicts

Welcome to the Members Share section of our website.

Here members of Sexaholics Anonymous share their experience, strength and hope. There are stories for everyone, from all walks of life. We hope that you can find inspiration from these shares.

Please always remember that the Member Shares are not official literature of Sexaholics Anonymous, they remain the personal opinions of their respective authors.

Sex Addiction Recovery Insights

"Even the chief architect, standing in the ruins of his dream, could laugh at himself--and that is the very acme of humility.” (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, Tradition Four). Today, as a member of Sexaholics Anonymous,  I will take a moment and look at something I did, and I will...

Sexaholics and Internet Access

I encourage my SA fellows who cannot stay sober to use Internet filters for a time in order to get sober.  Sometimes the idea of  "I am looking for a technical solution for a heart problem" sounds wrong, but often a technical solution for a newcomer is a good...

Dealing with Sexaholic Dreams

I thank God every time I have an acting-out dream. I've learned to accept that lust is an attitude that resides deep within me. When I have a dream, I just thank God and tell myself that it’s more of the Iust poison trying to get out of me.  Although these sort...

Sexaholics Anonymous Set Me Free

My default setting is that my brain and inner being look like a Central Railway Station. Thoughts are constantly coming in and going out of my mind, as well as feelings, emotions, physical sensations, character defects, inner dialogues with others, memories and...

Sexaholics Anonymous in Belgium

The SA fellowship in Belgium was started in 2008 by four members who could not stay sober in another  sex addiction fellowship.  Today, SA in Belgium has two linguistically and culturally different groups; one in Flanders (Dutch speaking) and one in Wallonia (...

I Cannot Control my Lusting

In the Sexaholics Anonymous “White Book” on page five we read the AA Third Tradition: "The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking."   The meaning for in Sexaholics is explained on page Four:

"This will and should discourage...

Contact with My Higher Power

Step Eleven says, “We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out." This can be found in the Sexaholics Anonymous “White Book...

Getting Sober from Sexaholism

For the newcomers: as you try to get sober from sexaholism, eventually  the fantasies and memories  will  leave you.  This will take awhile, so in the meantime it is important to work the Twelve Steps of recovery with a sponsor, so as to experience some recovery...

Surrendering my Sexaholism

Before I worked the Twelve Steps in Sexaholics Anonymous (under the direction of a sober SA sponsor), I struggled with lust, struggled to not act out, struggled with temptations, struggled with my thoughts, struggled with trigger images, struggled with people I...

Drinking in Lust

An interesting thought came out of this morning's face-to-face Sexaholics Anonymous meeting:  We are all thirsty for something.  Trying to meet that need with lust is like trying to quench my thirst with sea water.  It may be water I’m drinking, but lust will...

Lust was my drug

For years I searched for ways to control and enjoy sexual behavior that I found increasingly shameful.
 
Beginning in my mid-teens, I lived in a world of sexual and romantic fantasy. All of my relationships with women, including in my...

I am a Sexaholic

Another member shared, "I'm not sure what's wrong with me."  I remember asking an old timer this a few years ago.  I figured that I would hear a vault open up, which only old timers have a key to, and who only share their best experience, strength, and hope when...

Helping Other Sexaholics

My character defect:  I want to be treated special in order to feel normal.  Rooted within this idea is that I want to be catered to; I want to be served. But that is just me playing God.  And when life doesn't work that way, I get angry and resentful--thinking...

Grateful to Be a Sexaholic

I heard someone say "If you don't change, your sobriety date will."  Sexaholics Anonymous can be a VERY frustrating program for members who want to hold onto control in their lives, and for those who do not give this program 100%.  The AA Big Book says that we...

I Cannot Fight Lust

I heard a member of Sexaholics Anonymous say, "Fight the good fight," and this reminded me of my own early experience and how wrong my thinking was.  My sponsor told me to not fight lust, because I'm powerless to fight lust. He said that God is not some big dog...

Acting Out Is The Last Thing I Do

When I was an active sex addict, all the stuff I did before acting out was based on selfishness, self-centeredness, restlessness, irritability, and discontent (because of the selfishness and self-centeredness). In short, I was angry, resentful, and full of fear...

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