Select stories from recovering sex addicts

Welcome to the Members Share section of our website.

Here members of Sexaholics Anonymous share their experience, strength and hope. There are stories for everyone, from all walks of life. We hope that you can find inspiration from these shares.

Please always remember that the Member Shares are not official literature of Sexaholics Anonymous, they remain the personal opinions of their respective authors.

Sexaholics Anonymous in Slovenia

Today I am grateful to God for 177 days of consecutive sexual sobriety. This is the longest real sobriety I’ve had in the last 20 years. I started looking for a solution 18 years ago. Eleven years ago I read a book that gave a name to my problem with compulsive masturbation, watching...

Withdrawal from Sexual Addiction

Withdrawal Symptoms

A newcomer asked, “What are withdrawal symptoms? How long will withdrawal last before it leaves and I start to feel more peaceful, less oppressed, condemned and scared?" I told him that my withdrawal symptoms had been acute in my first three months in...

Psychologists and Sexual Sobriety

"Psychologists are inclined to agree with us. We have spent thousands of dollars for examinations. We know but few instances where we have given these doctors a fair break. We have seldom told them the whole truth, nor have we followed their advice. Unwilling to be honest with these...

The Price of Sexual Sobriety

A sexaholic is driving alone one night in his car, on an empty highway.  He Is depressed beyond words, thinking how miserable he is, and how he would do anything to get sober and have a normal life. Suddenly, as he's zooming down the highway and thinking these things, he hears the voice of God...

Finnish Fellowship

Our Finnish fellowship held an open meeting recently, which was also streamed over the internet for the benefit of those who couldn't attend in person. Three newcomers were present and over twelve people participated via the internet. A flyer was prepared, printed and distributed, all of which...

Sexaholics Anonymous and Sponsorship

I changed sponsors a week ago. I finally found the courage to call my previous sponsor and let him know that I've asked someone else to sponsor me. This was difficult for me. I'm very "needy" (codependent?), and I was worried about how he might feel--wondering if he would feel hurt--and I could...

Eye Candy Addiction

I am a candy addict.  What’s that you say? That this is Sexaholics Anonymous and I shouldn't share about food--that it is against the Traditions, that we keep it to our specific drug, namely lust? Well, that's exactly what I am talking about! I am addicted to a particular type of candy: eye...

Divorce Outbreak

I got married twice before finding my way into Sexaholics Anonymous. I thought those marriages would save me but my best thinking got me divorced.

You see, I have an allergy to lust:  I break out in divorces. 

Lust Addiction in Marriage

I got married with only one week of sobriety in Sexaholics Anonymous. I had just started with my sponsor, and he said that it might be a good idea to postpone the wedding until I had more sobriety and recovery--but he understood that it was shortly before the wedding and cancelling would have...

Marrying in Sexaholics Anonymous

“A.A. has many single alcoholics who wish to marry and are in a position to do so. Some marry fellow A.A.’s. How do they come out? On the whole these marriages are very good ones. Their common suffering as drinkers, their common interest in A.A. and spiritual things, often enhance such...

Sex Addiction Recovery

I have heard it said : "Be gentle with your relapsing sex addict brother: he might become your sponsor one day." Sexaholics Anonymous is for recovering sex addicts, not just for the sober ones. So, the challenge is how to include everyone without exception, as long as he or she has a desire to...

Sexaholics Anonymous Humour

These are the top ten things NOT to say to one's Sexaholics Anonymous Sponsor

10- I don't really feel that you're listening to me enough.

9- The Twelve Steps are technically just suggestions, right?

8- My therapist disagrees with you...

7- That's not very convenient...

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