In my early contact with the SA program, I used to talk about "the addict" as if that was some other entity that I could fight, struggle with and eventually gain control over. I have since stopped thinking and talking that way. And I believe this is more than mere semantics. I needed a change in my thinking and attitudes if I was ever to find lasting sobriety and recovery.
Nowadays, I call myself a sexaholic. I embrace the name because that is precisely what I am. In doing so, I have had to admit that I am powerless to fight being what I was and still am. And, because this conclusion was forced upon me, I finally had to resort to the last possible hope I could imagine: God.
If God was God, then He was the Higher Power who could relieve my sexaholism.